I think that the school your Grandmother attended looks terrifying, from a Staff point of view, Nell. It seels well to parents first, then to girls themselves and they obviously find staff who are prepared to help with those frantic weekends and so on, way and above simply teaching
From my own experience no one is forced as a teacher to work in an independent boarding school... if supervising weekends activities and late night duty is not your cup of tea as a teacher, you choose to work in a day school.
Of course. But it doesn't make it right. When schools are dependent on parents for their survival, they inevitably (have to?) provide more, and more, and more - compare what Nell's Grandmother's school provides now, with the original CS. The CS would have to become somehting utterly unkown to Elinor in order to survive in today's world.
I agree that Staff know what's expected, but my wide experience tells me that schools don't tell potential staff the whole story at interview, and contracts are blurred with statements such as 'and whatever else might be deemed necessary', or 'further duties might be reasonably asked of the member of staff', and so on.
Yes, you'd only go into it if oyu were prepared to live only through the school and have no independent life oputside the school. But the fact that no-one's forced to work in such a way doesn't negate the duty of the employer to not over-work their staff, or not to take into account the good work-life balance.
OK. I'm deep-breathing now ... feeling calmer ... !