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Dear Deirdre - updated 5 April - page 2
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Author:  LizB [ Mon May 01, 2006 1:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Dear Deirdre - updated 5 April - page 2
These might not appear in the order they were originally posted, but as they all stand on their own, that doesn't matter.


Dear Deidre

My father has been abroad for a long time and I hardly remember him. Now he’s coming back to England and I’m nervous about meeting him. What if he doesn’t like me? I don’t’ fit in with the other girls at school, what if he thinks I’m odd as well?

V-AC


Dear V-AC

Your father may be as nervous about meeting you as you are about meeting him but he’ll also be excited to see you after all this time. I’m sure he loves you just as you are and maybe he’ll be able to help you to fit in with the other girls too.

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Dear Deidre

I’ve done a really terrible thing. I was trying to make a drink when Mummy was out and accidentally poured hot water over my little sister. She’s now very ill because of it and I know it’s all my fault. I can’t help thinking my family would be better off without me and want to run away, but don’t know where I’d go. Is there anything I can do to make up for what I’ve done?

SR


Dear SR

Some accidents can’t be avoided and some can, but either way whatever’s done can’t be undone. The best thing you can do is to put this behind you and not brood on it but to try from now on to be a more careful person. I’m sure your parents realise you didn’t hurt your sister on purpose and if you show you’re determined to learn from your mistake and become a better person because of it they will be very pleased.

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Dear Deidre

I’m a friendly person and I love meeting new people and getting to know them. The trouble is, one of my friends gets jealous and possessive every time I meet someone new. What can I do?

JB


Dear JB

Friendship is a wonderful thing. You need to reassure your friend that however many new people come into your life it won’t affect how you feel about her. If she still is possessive and is trying to stop you making friends then maybe she needs to know that if she can’t share you she’ll lose you.

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Dear Deidre

My parents died recently, and my aunt, who is my guardian, has sent me abroad to a girls school. I hate it here. Everything is completely different from what I’m used to and the other girls seem to care about such silly things. I’m utterly miserable but I know my aunt won’t take me away from here. What can I do?

EB


Dear EB

It must be very difficult to have such an upheaval in your life when you’ve recently been orphaned. However, things will only get easier for you if you try to get along a bit more with the other girls. Are there any that you share an interest with? I also suggest you try to find somewhere you can go to when you want to be alone for some peace and quiet.

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Dear Deidre

My best friend is changing. She always used to be such fun, ready for a laugh or a joke, but lately she’s been different. She’s started being soppy about one of the mistresses at school and trying to impress. I don’t want her to turn into a no-fun goody-goody, I want her to stay the way she’s always been.

B W-D

Dear B W-D

People do change as they get older. If you look back, you’ll probably see that you were quite different a few years ago. You can’t stop people from changing. All you can do is accept her as she is and stay her friend, or if she changes into someone you don’t want to know find some new friends who have more in common with you.

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Dear Deirdre

I really want to go to school but I’ve always had governesses at home. If I was a boy I’m sure I would be sent to school, but because I’m just a girl I have to be taught at home. I’m lonely and I want to make friends with other girls and have fun like they do in my story books.

E of B


Dear E of B

Nothing ventured, nothing gained and if you don’t ask you certainly aren’t likely to get what you want so tell your father how you feel, after all, you’ve got nothing to lose. But remember, books aren’t exactly like real life and school may not be everything you expect it to be.

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Dear Deidre

I work as a secretary in a school and so always have to dress smartly. I’d like to have a change from suits in the office all day. Can you suggest anything that would be smart but may be a little less formal?

RD

Dear RD

How about investing in some pretty twinsets. You can still appear professional but they are slightly less formal so pupils may feel you are more approachable. If you are keen on knitting there are some very good patterns and lovely wool colours to chose from to make your own.

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Dear Deirdre,

I have recently decided on what career, or rather, vocation, I should follow. However, it will mean moving away from my family and not seeing much of them in the future. I’m sure I’ve made the right decision, but I don’t know how to break the news to them. They’ve always worried about me and taken care of me and I don’t want to cause them more worry or upset them. What should I do?

RH

Dear RH,

If you know what you want to do with your life you should go for it. Your family will understand. Explain to them how important this job is for you and I’m sure they’ll be supportive.

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Dear Deirdre,

I have recently started my first teaching job, and am having trouble with one of the girls who keeps cheeking me. The other staff don’t seem to find this a problem and say she’s just being herself, and I’. It seems to only be me who is having to put up with this familiarity. What can I do?

KF


Dear KF,

Pupils shouldn’t get away with cheeking their teachers. She needs to learn that different behaviour is appropriate in different situations. Make sure she knows you will not put up with this kind of behaviour. Don’t descend to her level, but set her an example by the way you treat her.

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Dear Deirdre

I was expecting to be made head girl this year at school – all the signs pointed to it. Now another, younger girl has been made head girl because her aunt owns the school. It’s so unfair, especially as she has done things that would get other girls into trouble but doesn’t just because of who she is. What can I do?

EV

Dear EV,

You have my sympathy, favouritism like this is so unfair. Unfortunately, all you can do is hope that your teachers will realise that she is not good at being head girl and if you have been setting a good example they will notice and promote you to her place.

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Dear Deirdre

I have been a maths mistress in a private school for several years. I like my job and my colleagues, but seem to be feeling rather frustrated and apathetic about things lately. I can see me being here until I marry or retire. Is there some way I can make my life more interesting?

PS


Dear PS,

There is nothing to say you have to stay teaching at the same school for your whole career. While it might be quite comfortable to stick with what you know, in some ways, it sounds like you’re not getting much of a challenge. Why not look around to see if there is a vacancy that interests you in another school and apply for that. Good luck.
Author:  LizB [ Mon May 01, 2006 1:20 pm ]
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Dear Deidre

I’m in love with an amazing girl. She’s clever, caring and great fun to be with. The trouble is, she’s never shown any sign she wants to be more than friends. Should I say something that could ruin our friendship, or should I stay quiet and hope for a sign that she wants something more?

JM


Dear JM,

If you wait for a sign you could be waiting forever. If she’s a good friend she won’t laugh in your face when you tell her how you feel, If she doesn’t feel the same way there may be some awkwardness for a while but that will pass with time. At least if you say something you’ll know she knows how you feel – after all, she might be waiting for a sign from you!
Author:  Lesley [ Mon May 01, 2006 1:31 pm ]
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Go for it Jack! :lol:

Thanks Liz.
Author:  Kate [ Mon May 01, 2006 4:22 pm ]
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*chortles at the advice to Eilunedd*

GO JACK! :D
Author:  Chair [ Mon May 01, 2006 5:04 pm ]
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Thanks, Liz. I'm really glad that Jack did decide to take the courage!
Author:  francesn [ Mon May 01, 2006 5:34 pm ]
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I think that SLOC is sign enough, don't you?
Author:  MaryR [ Mon May 01, 2006 8:18 pm ]
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Well done for plucking up the courage to write to an agony aunt, Jack! :lol:

Thanks, Liz.
Author:  RuthY [ Mon May 01, 2006 9:36 pm ]
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Thanks Liz, these are great.

I'm glad Jack did pluck up the courage to write a letter to an agony aunt.
Author:  KathrynW [ Tue May 02, 2006 4:36 pm ]
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Thank you for these Liz, they're really great. What sensible advice!

Kathryn
Author:  Alice [ Wed May 03, 2006 12:09 am ]
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Awww, isn't Jack sweet.
Author:  Josie [ Fri May 05, 2006 3:53 pm ]
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:D Good to see this back

thanks Liz
Author:  LizB [ Fri May 19, 2006 1:37 pm ]
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Dear Deirdre,

Our daughter had always had naturally high spirits, and we have tried our best to allow her to express them in whatever way she wishes. However, after a few incidents recently, which occurred because she was bored, our neighbour, an ex-teacher, has suggested we send her to school. We’re not sure that it would be a good idea, we don’t want to see her naturalness smothered by strict rules and regulations. What do you think?

Mr & Mrs H


Dear Mr & Mrs H

There are plenty of schools with a curriculum that allows time for girls to develop their own interests alongside giving them a good education. Some discipline is natural in any community, and I’m sure if the school is picked carefully your daughter will not find it too onerous and will enjoy school life. She will have the chance to make new friends and hopefully a choice of activities that will prevent boredom. Perhaps your neighbour can suggest somewhere that would suit her.
Author:  Helen P [ Fri May 19, 2006 1:46 pm ]
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Wonderful! :D

The neighbour certainly could - and did! :lol:

Thank you Liz, lovely to see more of this. :)
Author:  KathrynW [ Fri May 19, 2006 2:48 pm ]
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Hehehe...thank you Liz :D

Kathryn
Author:  Chair [ Fri May 19, 2006 10:17 pm ]
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Thanks, Liz. It was great to read the letter.
Author:  Cath V-P [ Sun May 21, 2006 4:26 am ]
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Somehow I think the neighbours would have just preferred to smother Emerence... :D
Author:  LizB [ Tue Mar 27, 2007 8:59 am ]
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Dear Deidre

My aunt has sent me to a horrid school instead of taking her travelling with her, all because of this horrid war. It’s not fair. And there’s a horrid girl who hit me in the face when I tried to say something patriotic, but because she’s been here longer everyone takes her side. How can I get my aunt to take me away from here?

LL


Dear LL,

Unfortunately this ‘horrid’ war means that you’ll probably have to stay at the school and can’t go back to your aunt for a while. Maybe the girl who hit you misunderstood what you were saying – perhaps you can talk to her and sort things out. If you’ve got to live with her, you might as well make the effort to get along.
Author:  Helen P [ Tue Mar 27, 2007 9:53 am ]
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Oooh! How lovely to see another one of these! Thank you Liz, I love all the 'horrids' in this one! :lol:
Author:  francesn [ Tue Mar 27, 2007 12:06 pm ]
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Soooo Lavender! Love the bracing advice that Deidre gave her.

Thank you Liz
Author:  leahbelle [ Tue Mar 27, 2007 5:15 pm ]
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Good advice! Thanks, Liz.
Author:  Dawn [ Thu Mar 29, 2007 12:24 pm ]
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Great advice Deirdre :lol:
Author:  LizB [ Mon Apr 02, 2007 1:13 pm ]
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Dear Deirdre

I desperately want to go and see the Falls of Rhine on my way back to school. It’s only a short detour, but although the others would enjoy it the mistress with us won’t agree to go. I don’t see why not. I’ll never have another chance to see them and she’s being really unreasonable about it.

GC


Dear GC

I’m sure your mistress has her reasons, even if she hasn’t told you what they are. Perhaps you could sit down with her without the other girls around to talk through why you want to go and hear her side as well. And never say never. You don’t know what might happen, and there might be a much better opportunity in the future.
Author:  francesn [ Mon Apr 02, 2007 1:15 pm ]
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Very sensible advice to Grizel!

Thanks Liz
Author:  Aquabird [ Mon Apr 02, 2007 1:18 pm ]
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francesn wrote:
Very sensible advice to Grizel!


Pity she didn't take it, though!
Author:  Ruth B [ Mon Apr 02, 2007 2:28 pm ]
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Aquabird wrote:
francesn wrote:
Very sensible advice to Grizel!


Pity she didn't take it, though!


I was looking at a train map in Italy last week and was rather excited to see that I could, in theory, get to Schaffhausen from Venice!
Author:  LizB [ Thu Apr 05, 2007 8:33 am ]
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Dear Deirdre

There’s a guy I know who really likes me. He’s a good friend, but I know he wants more (marriage eventually) and I’m not sure I’m ready for that yet – I’m still at school, although I shall be going to university in September. He’s quite a bit older than me, but that’s never mattered to our friendship, so should it be important if we decided on something closer?

LM


Dear LM

Ah, the age-old question of age gaps in relationships. I think you have a very important point when you say that age has never mattered to your friendship, but it possibly is something that might make a difference to a closer relationship. Make sure you have some serious talks about what you both want out of life and would expect out of your marriage. If you have completely different ideas you might be better off staying as friends. If you agree, then the most important question is how you feel about him. And only you can answer that.
Author:  Fatima [ Thu Apr 05, 2007 9:18 am ]
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Wise words there.

Thanks Liz.
Author:  Smile :) [ Thu Apr 05, 2007 3:01 pm ]
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These are great, thanks Liz.
Author:  wheelchairprincess [ Fri Apr 27, 2007 12:58 pm ]
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I love this! Thanks Liz
Author:  Josie [ Thu May 03, 2007 10:58 pm ]
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:D Glad to see more of this.

Thanks Liz.
Author:  Lottie [ Fri May 04, 2007 8:54 am ]
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I remember this from when it was posted before the hacking, and I've only just found out that it's been updated. :oops: I hope the bunnies keep you supplied with lots more letters to answer, Deirdre! :lol:

Thanks, Liz! :D
Author:  jacey [ Wed May 16, 2007 11:47 pm ]
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Just found this Liz. It's great, any more planned?
I love the way you've cast a different light on each episode.
Author:  patmac [ Thu May 17, 2007 9:55 am ]
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Lovely series, Liz. I've just read it right through and it makes a nice series of chuckles to start the day. More, please.
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