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Author:  Róisín [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 10:54 am ]
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Discipline in the Chalet School.

What do you think of the standards of discipline in the Chalet School? Were they consistent? To lenient? Too harsh? Prone to favourtism?

What are the rules, that we can make out? Were the rules of the school reasonable ones, and were they enforced properly?

Please raise any issue you like in relation to this topic below :D

Author:  Emma A [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 12:23 pm ]
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In general, I think that the rules were sensible ones, designed to limit the individual freedoms enough to permit community living. Infringements enough to be noticed by the staff are generally dealt with in an appropriate way (though the staff are helped by the girls' inevitable tendency to start crying as soon as they enter the study, let alone after the Headmistress starts her remonstrances).

However, I do find the prefects' responses to "cheekiness" generally overwhelmingly over the top. Instead of encouraging the girls to turn their Heyer-reading into more historical learning (as happens in, IIRC, Peggy of the CS), the prefects impose a swingeing punishment which far outweighs the offence, in my opinion.

When Annis is rude to Mlle Lachenais in Island, her punishment - isolation - seems acceptable (though may have been difficult to enforce), and it's made clear that it's the occasional relaxation in her regime, where she's able to help Cherry, for example, that makes her calm down and apologise. And I do like the way that the staff treat her leniently after she runs away.

It does seem, thinking about it, that relatively minor transgressions are punished with relative severity, whereas really big things (especially if the criminal shows remorse) are more easily forgiven.

Author:  jennifer [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 2:04 pm ]
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I agree that a lot of the basic rules and punishment make sense, and match with the size of the school (a lot more regimented in the later days, for example).

On thing that I found grating was the tendency to punish every one in the general vicinity when someone is disobedient - like when Verity refuses to sing in German, the girls who gasp in shock at her rebelliousness are hammered with a massive punishment, which seemed way over the top to me. In other cases, the victim is told off, like when Jane is reprimanded for letting Jack physically attack her.

I'm not familiar with the prefect system, but I think some of the over enthusiasm in the punishments for creative cheekiness could come from the inexperience of the prefects. They see the middles being cheeky to them, and over react because it is threatening their dignity, where a mistress would be better at interpreting the intent.

Author:  Alison H [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 2:30 pm ]
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I'm surprised by how much authority the prefects have. I appreciate that in public schools prefects are VIPs, but some of them are as young as 16 and they end up dealing with some fairly serious matters without any adult involvement. I also wonder how poor Matey felt about having to spend every Saturday night supervising whoever was in disgrace!

EBD seems very reliant on the idea of people "having punished themselves enough". I'm sure that CS girls were too honourable to look at it like this :lol: , but it must have occurred to the odd person that if you burst into tears in the headmistress's study you could get away with anything, even (especially?) putting your own and other people's lives at risk ... whereas Jane Carew was told off for being the victim of bullying and Val Pertwee was told off for being kidnapped.

The issue of Margot Maynard's been discussed in several other threads, but it seems very unjust that she gets away pretty much scot-free with blackmailing Ted Grantley and half-killing Betty Landon.

Generally I think that the discipline's reasonable, though, especially the way that they try to make the punishment fit the crime rather than just doling out lines and detentions.

Author:  Mrs Redboots [ Tue Aug 12, 2008 4:54 pm ]
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Oh, be fair, Alison - Val wasn't told off for being kidnapped; she was told off for having left the school premises without first getting permission - and if she had been where she was supposed to have been, she would not have been kidnapped!

Author:  jennifer [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 3:43 am ]
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Mrs Redboots wrote:
Oh, be fair, Alison - Val wasn't told off for being kidnapped; she was told off for having left the school premises without first getting permission - and if she had been where she was supposed to have been, she would not have been kidnapped!


Actually, there's some interesting psychology there. It's a common that when something bad happens when you are doing something against the rules, it is seen as entirely your fault, regardless of the severity of the initial offence, and the punishment is disproportionate.

So Sybil, whose offence (playing with a kettle when left unsupervised at age eight) combined with an accident (Josette running into her) turns into the offence of nearly killing her younger sister. Val's offence - breaking bounds at school to go see her brother - is one worthy of punishment, but when she gets randomly kidnapped by criminals, her crime is extended to include responsibility for getting kidnapped and causing everyone to worry.

Author:  JS [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 7:46 am ]
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Discipline wasn't consistent - it seemed to be fairly ad hoc and to suit the particular plotline of the moment. I would also not have been able to predict whether the prefects would decide to deal with something or whether it would have to go to the head - little consistency there, either.

Often there's little basis or precedent for decisions. For example, Grizel gets to be head girl even though she's run off to Schaffhausen, while Anne Seymour doesn't, on account of slipping while she's trying to wet her flowers and keep them fresh and almost killing herself and Joey. Grizel's offence was pre-meditated and on top of lots of other bad behaviour. Anne's was an accident, although the consequences were serious. And I'm sure she genuinely repented any carelessness too.

Oh, and I thought Joey's sarkiness was often uncalled for when she was a prefect/head girl. She did that classic thing (that many bosses do) of not realising that what she says comes across more strongly because of her 'superior' position so she should temper things a little. I think EBD did realise this, however. She has Joyce Linton stand up for Kitty at one point by saying that Joey can sit there saying horrible things but if Kitty tries to answer back she'll say it's cheek.

Author:  JackieP [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 11:31 am ]
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JS wrote:
For example, Grizel gets to be head girl even though she's run off to Schaffhausen, while Anne Seymour doesn't, on account of slipping while she's trying to wet her flowers and keep them fresh and almost killing herself and Joey. Grizel's offence was pre-meditated and on top of lots of other bad behaviour. Anne's was an accident, although the consequences were serious. And I'm sure she genuinely repented any carelessness too.


Did EBD perhaps rate not thinking/carelessness as a worse sin than pre-meditated disobedience...?

JackieP

Author:  Emma A [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 11:40 am ]
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JS wrote:
...while Anne Seymour doesn't, on account of slipping while she's trying to wet her flowers and keep them fresh and almost killing herself and Joey. Grizel's offence was pre-meditated and on top of lots of other bad behaviour. Anne's was an accident, although the consequences were serious. And I'm sure she genuinely repented any carelessness too...

Louise, chosen ahead of Anne because of the latter's "thoughtlessness" is later shown to be just as bad! She re-enters a burning building (which, to be fair, Anne had managed to set on fire, because she'd left the iron, plate down on the ironing board) just to rescue a copy of Joey's first book, and has to be rescued herself!

Author:  claire [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 1:32 pm ]
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but Anne nearly killed Joey, and doing so would have killed Madge so therefore she attempted to murder the school's founder and THAT's why she never got to be head girl.

I'd actually forgotten that incident and thought she wasn't made headgirl because she told Joey to shut up and stop moaning in the previous book

Author:  Alison H [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 1:52 pm ]
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Grizel nearly killed Joey as well (on the Tiernjoch) :lol: .

It didn't seem to happen so much in Switzerland, but I'm surprised that they didn't have a mistress (or an armed guard :lol: ) patrolling the grounds in Tyrol, given the number of people who went walkabout and ended up in danger or at least in serious trouble as a result - Grizel to climb the Tiernjoch, Joey & co to go to the ice carnival, Robin and Cornelia to go off with the "madman", Joey to rescue Rufus/Elisaveta/Maureen/Grizel (have I missed anyone?), Juliet & co with the film crew, Stacie to run away ...

Author:  jennifer [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 2:50 pm ]
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Grizel's escapade was done before term started, though, so it would be very unfair to her to demote her for something that happened on vacation, as for almost any other girl the school wouldn't even know about it.

Author:  Sunglass [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 4:25 pm ]
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Is there actually a single prank that goes unpunished, or if not punished exactly, then at least results in a sorrowful talking to from someone in authority and the declaration that the miscreant has punished herself enough?

Does a girl ever actually get away with anything? I can't think of a single instance offhand.

I think that's the thing that strikes me about discipline at the CS - EBD seems to be very conscious, I suppose not surprisingly, of writing for young girls who might be tempted to copy the antics she writes about (Polly Heriot copying the schoolgirl weeklies making Joey take out all copiable mischief from Cecily Holds the Fort etc), so she seems to feel that even if she needs to write lots of pranks and escapades, she needs to also show the dire consequences! I sometimes find myself longing for someone not to get caught.

Is this different in other GO books?

Just thinking about the crying issue - it's clearly NB to know when and how much to cry - if you're like Simone in the early days or poor Odette Mercier, you just get labelled a crybaby, even by staff, who might be expected to recognise homesickness. But once you're in Miss Annersley's study, and have held out for the right amount of time, then a burst of hysterical sobbing is definitely the right move.

Author:  Tara [ Wed Aug 13, 2008 9:58 pm ]
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Sunglass wrote:
I sometimes find myself longing for someone not to get caught

I've just read the Merry books for the first time (brilliant, btw) and was struck by how they get away with midnight feasts and even spending half a night making sweets in the kitchen - which they got into by stealing the key from Matron (I'd have thought that was quite serious)... They're doing it to raise money for the school, and it's all terribly good-natured, but very un-CS. It is New Zealand, not UK, so perhaps a slightly diferent ethos??
Have just remembered an incident in a non-EBD book (but can't remember which) when the girls do get away with a midnight, but feel so guilty they have to confess. Public school ethic gone mad?

Reading the CS books as an adult I do find the discipline inconsistent. Some very minor things are severely punished (though others are laughed over) while apparently much more serious misdemeanours are dealt with more leniently. It does seem to depend a bit on who does them :D .
I love the bit in Lavender when the girls leave a tray of snowballs on the stove and it all explodes. Miss Annersley is having a fit and Bill tells her not to be a tragedy queen and has a chortle over it. Somehow sounds very like EBD herself.
ETA there are occasions when girls are sent to bed, not really as a punishment, but to let them recover from whatever they've been doing.

Author:  Alison H [ Thu Aug 14, 2008 6:48 am ]
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Sorry for spreeing on this thread :oops: , but I've just been reading the thread in Joey's Trunk which refers to Rolf Maynard, Jack's nephew whose death was always blamed on his parents' failure to instil proper discipline in him. It just made me think about whether CS girls expect to get away with more at home than they do at school, or more at school than they do at home. Emerence, for example, gets away with anything at home and finds the discipline at school a shock, but some of the Austrian girls early on, who do everything their parents say at home, seem to find things freer at school.

I will stop waffling now.

Author:  Jennie [ Thu Aug 14, 2008 11:47 am ]
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When is Jack Lambert's bullying tackled by the staff or the prefects?

Author:  moiser30 [ Fri Aug 15, 2008 2:33 pm ]
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the disapline is good in the Chalet School books because They never ever expell anyone unless they have to.

Author:  Theresa [ Sat Aug 16, 2008 8:04 am ]
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Alison H wrote:
EBD seems very reliant on the idea of people "having punished themselves enough". I'm sure that CS girls were too honourable to look at it like this :lol: , but it must have occurred to the odd person that if you burst into tears in the headmistress's study you could get away with anything...


When I was in high school I never did in any of my assignments on time, and I used to get away with it by intentionally bursting into tears before I went into the classroom. That way it seemed like I was genuinely upset and remorseful about 'forgetting' to bring it with me, not just because I was getting in trouble. Girls who cried after they were already getting in trouble never seemed to understand the difference.

I also used to get away with not bringing my homework every day, even though other girls would get detention for not doing one time, so although I have always found the discipline in the CS to be inconsistent, it also seemed pretty well in line with my rl experiences of favouritism (in my favour XD ).

Author:  JennieP [ Sat Aug 16, 2008 2:23 pm ]
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I was always very edgy on the discipline issue - or at least, that doled out by the prefects. I thought they had way too much power for a bunch of 16-17 year olds, and were frequently throughly unpleasant to the younger girls - for example, some of the things that OOAO says in Theodora to the triplets and Ted. Certainly at my school if the prefects had said stuff like that, they would have been the ones up in front of the Head.

I also agree with what other people have said about the severity of punishments for minor things was ludicrous, in comparison to the ease with which Margot, for example, got away withshocking behaviour merely because she was very sorry afterwards.

And of course flipping Joey always got away with murder by being ill aftewards...

Author:  JustJen [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 2:13 am ]
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I always thought that Peggy's punishment for the forth form slang out break was over the top. If I was a student I would have let Blossom and co. have it for doing such a stupid thing.

Author:  jennifer [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:57 am ]
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I do find some of the attitudes towards disobedience to be interesting.

Lydia Maynard is widely regarded as being responsible for her own son's death - she didn't teach him proper discipline, he disobeyed a direct order, and was killed. She is told so after his death.

However, several of the Maynard kids nearly die due to deliberate disobedience - Margot in Lake Lucerne, Mike falling down a cliff, and the kids are seen as bad in spite of being raised perfectly - there is no hint at all that Jack and Joey have let them down by not teaching them to obey - it's due to character flaws in the kids.

Author:  JayB [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 9:51 am ]
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jennifer wrote:
I do find some of the attitudes towards disobedience to be interesting.

Lydia Maynard is widely regarded as being responsible for her own son's death - she didn't teach him proper discipline, he disobeyed a direct order, and was killed.... However, several of the Maynard kids nearly die due to deliberate disobedience .... and.... there is no hint at all that Jack and Joey have let them down by not teaching them to obey - it's due to character flaws in the kids.


And Madge is a wonderful mother, despite Sybil's 'disobedience' in spilling boiling water over Josette.

Not to mention the number of times that Joey nearly died due to disobedience or breaking school rules. Does that make Joey a bad child or Madge a bad parental figure?

Author:  Jennie [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 1:27 pm ]
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And isn't it odd that Jo is highly critical of the amused tolerance that Madge has towards Sybil, when that is exactly how Jo was treated by Madge when she was growing up?

All the things that Jo got away with, and she criticises Sybil for the least little thing.

Author:  Maeve [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 1:44 pm ]
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Sunglass wrote:
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Does a girl ever actually get away with anything? I can't think of a single instance offhand.


Hmm - they got away with it when they played tricks on Matron Webb and Matron Beasly and when they pretended they didn't know that they were talking loudly in imitation of Matron Webb - these are the only instances I can think of.

I always thought Mary-Lou was told off way too much in Mary-Lou when they are all being chased by "Demons" on the Feast of St. Nicholas and she leaps on top of the stationary cupboard. She had already scared and embarrassed herself rather publicly, so Miss Annersley's dressing down the next day seems a bit over the top.

Author:  JayB [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 1:49 pm ]
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Jennie wrote:
And isn't it odd that Jo is highly critical of the amused tolerance that Madge has towards Sybil, when that is exactly how Jo was treated by Madge when she was growing up?

All the things that Jo got away with, and she criticises Sybil for the least little thing.


I suspect some unconscious jealousy of Sybil on Joey's part. She was able to tolerate Jem and David because they were male, Robin (in Jo's mind anyway) loved her best, Juliet didn't threaten her place in Madge's affections. But Sybil, being another girl, and pretty, too, displaced Jo in Madge's order of priority, and attracted attention everywhere. Given that Jo always liked to be the centre of attention herself, that must have been galling at times.

Author:  Tara [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 10:52 pm ]
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That's really interesting. Madge is Joey's mother-figure, of course, so a bit of sibling rivalry between her and Sybil seems only too likely.

Author:  Pado [ Sun Aug 17, 2008 11:06 pm ]
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I'm intrigued by the sibling rivalry concept...I can see it...but doesn't Joey have triplets of her own by the time any negativity about Sybil is expressed? Presumably that should have steadied her somewhat?

Author:  Loryat [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 2:57 pm ]
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jennifer wrote:
I do find some of the attitudes towards disobedience to be interesting.

Lydia Maynard is widely regarded as being responsible for her own son's death - she didn't teach him proper discipline, he disobeyed a direct order, and was killed. She is told so after his death.

However, several of the Maynard kids nearly die due to deliberate disobedience - Margot in Lake Lucerne, Mike falling down a cliff, and the kids are seen as bad in spite of being raised perfectly - there is no hint at all that Jack and Joey have let them down by not teaching them to obey - it's due to character flaws in the kids.


Maybe the difference is that the J&J have at least tried to instil some discipline, whereas Lydia didn't bother at all, a la the Hopes. Plus, if all the Maynards were as good as Len, they'd be a very boring family.

I think I'm the only person who thinks that Joey and Sybil have a good relationship. Joey notices Sybil has flaws and points them out to Madge; doesn't this ever happen to Joey at any time in the books? Since Sybil had to be forcibly carried to the Head's study, I'm pretty sure it wasn't only Joey who mentioned that Sybil had flaws.

Madge's seeming failure to notice/deal with them is more interesting, but at the start of Lavender is it not mentioned that Madge was beginning to be worried by Sybil's behaviour herself? Perhaps it comes down to Sybil sharing her home with numerous cousins, many of whom(?) are older than herself. It makes Sybil's behaviour a much more complex issue than any of Joey's kids acting up.

(I know the Richardsons join the Maynard family later on, but that's near the end of the series and IMO there is far less interaction between them and the Maynards than there is between the Russells and Bettanys, and it's on a much more equal footing).

As for discipline, I suppose the inconsistency of the punishments is actually fairly believable - doesn't EBD actually mention occasionally that due to a mistress being in a bad mood or being sorely tried, some punishments are more severe than they might ordinarily be?

In the cases of Grizel and Anne, I suppose there are several factors to explain the leneincy towards Grizel. She is a product of bad upbringing, while Anne has no such excuse; her offence was committed in the holidays - Anne might have committed the same offence and no-one would have even known about it; the Head Girlship will redeem Grizel, while there isn't really any need of it for Anne; finally in New House Anne actually expects to be Games Prefect and IMO it was gratuitous of EBD to even put the whole waterfall thing in at the beginning of Returns.

As regards Margot nearly braining Betty, earlier on Deira does the exact same thing and apparently recieves no punishment at all, so it seems serious assault is not actually regarded as such a serious offence in CS as cheek. :?

One situation which always seems to me to be very over the top is the threat to Joyce that if she gets into any more serious trouble she'll be expelled. Fair enough Joyce has behaved pretty badly (I loathe her) but considering she's a new girl, a half orphan and her mother is dangerously ill, you'd expect a bit more tolerance. I know we need the whole dramatic death bed scene at the end of the book but EBD could have put a bit more effort into making Joyce really bad if you ask me.

Author:  Alison H [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:21 pm ]
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I thought Joyce got a raw deal too. Her worst "crime" - a midnight feast is hardly that serious - was playing up Miss Norman, and TBH a lot of that was Miss Norman's fault for not being able to maintain discipline in a very small class. I know that it can be difficult to deal with badly-behaved pupils, but there were only a few of them there and the impression given is that any other mistress would have been able to handle the situation.

Other than a few minor problems faced by Kathie early on in her time there, what other occasions are there on which a teacher is unable to keep discipline? Mr Denny and Herr Anserl both lose the plot several times, but that's failure to keep control of themselves rather than of the class :roll: - EBD evidently didn't think much of male teachers!

Author:  JayB [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:54 pm ]
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One situation which always seems to me to be very over the top is the threat to Joyce that if she gets into any more serious trouble she'll be expelled.


I can't imagine that they ever would have expelled Joyce. What would have happened to her, if they had? She had nowhere else to go, and no-one else to take responsibility for her. Mrs Linton was too ill. Presumably she had a solicitor or someone looking after her affairs back in England, but the school could hardly have offloaded Joyce onto him. They were stuck with her, really.

Author:  Loryat [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 3:58 pm ]
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I can't think of any CS instances, the teachers all seem to be veritable gods...I think Joyce's behaviour towards Miss Norman is despicable, and it's my main reason for really disliking her, but the reason it becomes such a problem is that Miss Norman can't do anything about it, while any other mistress (or prefect) would have squashed it utterly.

Another seemingly unfair punishment, now I come to think of it, is (IMO) Madge's total over-reaction to Grizel's prank of vaselining the blackboards. Why does Madge get so angry about that, anyone? Also the St Swithin's Day prank? The only excuse I can think of is that it's cheek aimed at a staff not prefect, and therefore much more serious...but the prefects are representations of the staff...I'm very confused. :?

...on second thoughts, in answer to Alison H, what about Miss Stone in ?Two Sams? I remember she has some trouble with the class, but I'm not sure if it's just that she can't 'reach' them in the way Miss Ferrars can.

Author:  JayB [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:11 pm ]
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Another seemingly unfair punishment, now I come to think of it, is (IMO) Madge's total over-reaction to Grizel's prank of vaselining the blackboards. Why does Madge get so angry about that, anyone?


Maybe because it caused damage to School property and affected the work of the School, because the mistresses couldn't give their lessons as planned? And if I'm remembering rightly, Grizel's attitude had been unsatisfactory for a while, and she wasn't at all repentant. The punishment may have been for that as much as for the actual prank.

Author:  Loryat [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:17 pm ]
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But Madge is furious before she knows who was responsible. I suppose it must be to do with interupting teaching, but IIRC it's the only time Madge gets really mad.

Author:  Pado [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:51 pm ]
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Perhaps Madge was afraid that vaselining the blackboards would incur a capital expense if they needed to be replaced, and money was tight.

The St Swithin's prank: did involve an outright lie whereas other pranks simply create innocent havoc.

Author:  claire [ Thu Aug 28, 2008 4:53 pm ]
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It also costs a lot to put right and at that point the school doesn't have much money

Author:  Sunglass [ Fri Aug 29, 2008 9:51 am ]
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Lintons is one of the books where some of the disciplining issues seem particularly arbitrary. There's the whole showdown about passing notes as terribly dishonourable - Joey says the school considers it as bad as stealing someone else's pocket money, that it's 'stealing the confidence of the prefect' in charge, and dismisses Kitty Burnett with the words
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“I've got nothing more to say to you. I'm too disgusted with your behaviour. You make me feel sick! Please go away, and don't let us see anything more of you this week as can be helped. You are a disgrace to the School, and the sooner you realise it the better for you. Now go!”

Which seems to me distinctly over the top to say to a girl who isn't an out and out villain.

The response to the midnight feast also seems a bit excessive for a prank which only harms the perpetrators. Miss Annersley, while secretly amused

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told them that she was bitterly ashamed to think that Chalet girls could be so greedy and thoughtless. She impressed on them the seriousness of Joyce's illness. She added that this meant that they were not to be trusted -- which reduced Luise, Hilda and Margritta to tears at once -- and then she issued sentence.


And the actual punishment is the confiscation of all pocket money, and no sweet or fancy food for a week (which must make Kaffee und Kuchen difficult)! Yet, as other people have said, a spot of GBH in other novels appears to get only the response that you've punished yourself enough, and a hug from the Robin!

I suppose what struck me as particularly strange in Lintons is that the discipline seems arbitrarily harsh at a time when the school is still small, only three years old, and likeably casual in its ways. For instance, when Evadne tells Joeyl that she's 'coming over all thick' when Jo asks where Mademoiselle wants to see her, no offence whatsoever is taken - I can't imagine any Middle getting away with such cheek to a prefect in later books!

Author:  Alison H [ Fri Aug 29, 2008 10:09 am ]
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It does seem like an awful lot of fuss over a midnight feast, which is a pretty standard school prank. It wasn't the others' fault that Joyce ate too much and got an upset stomach (serious illness :roll: ?)!

They obviously didn't put on a good enough "We're very sorry and we've learnt our lesson" act - that seemed to get everyone out of getting into bother over the ice carnival incident and a lot of other things :wink: .

Author:  KB [ Sun Aug 31, 2008 6:16 am ]
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Loryat wrote:
...on second thoughts, in answer to Alison H, what about Miss Stone in ?Two Sams? I remember she has some trouble with the class, but I'm not sure if it's just that she can't 'reach' them in the way Miss Ferrars can.


I think you may have a different mistress in mind. Miss Stone is described in Two Sams as "a mistress of gentle mockery" and "something of a stickler for punctuality". She is swapped with Miss Ferrars as mistress of Upper IVb, but because they can't accuse her of wanting to cut the form out of games due to her own personal dislike, Miss Ferrars being very fond of them. In fact, in Challenge there is a comment made that shows many of the girls being rather in awe of her:

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“Cobbler’s-wax? But why?” Anne demanded.
“Because then it’ll stick and she won’t be able to open it.” Jocelyn gave a sudden chuckle. “What a yell watching her struggling with it!” In her interest she spoke in English again and Gwen, equally interested, forgot to rebuke her. Instead, she asked where the cobbler’s-wax was to come from.
“Hobbies, of course. They have a lump there. I saw it the other day when I went to get my raffia.”
They thought it over. Finally, Sandra spoke. “But it might be some other mistress. Dr Benson doesn’t always come to us first. In fact it’s always Miss Stone when she comes to take register.”
We can’t do that to Rocky! She’d eat us alive!” Barbara said with horror.

Author:  jennifer [ Sun Aug 31, 2008 10:02 am ]
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Actually, it is Miss Stone, in Summer Term.

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The truth was that at a staff meeting the previous evening Miss Stone had let herself go on the subject of her form. She wound up by wishing aloud that she might change with someone else - anyone else! The Head had promptly taken advantage of her remarks and requested Kathy Ferrars to hand over Upper IIIa and take hold of Upper IVb. She had already decided on this and discussed it with Miss Ferrars in private.

"We must do something about Upper IVb," she had said. "I won't have them continuing in their present idle, careless way. I think Linda Stone isn't quite the right person to tackle them. Will you exchange with her and see what you can do, Kathy?"

"But why me?" Kathy Ferrars had asked in dismay.

"Because you are very much of a live wire. Also, that crowd are games-mad and you are good at games. Linda isn't really keen and hasn't the hold on them that that would give you. Take them over and wake them up! I'll back you to the limit in whatever methods you choose to use; but something must be done if we are not to have the same trouble with them later on as we had with Inter V four years or so ago - remember? They're young enough to respond without much bother if you pull them up sharply now. Will you do it?"

"What does Linda think of it?" Kathy asked.

"She will be only too thankful to be relieved of them. She will do much better with IIIa who are a keen set; but I doubt if she has the right approach towards people like Upper IVb. I think you have."

Author:  Clare [ Sun Aug 31, 2008 12:37 pm ]
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From a teachers perspective, I don't think Linda Stone is being criticised for her discipline; some teachers handle certain age groups better and that changes as you go through your career. In my particular school, the PE staff are the ones with few discipline problems, as 99% of the pupils are keen and the majority lean towards a more kinasthetic approach to learning anyway. For some groups, having a common interest with them does ease relations and foster a better working relationship.

In terms of Ivy Norman vs. Joyce Linton, Ivy's failings are totally understandable. I remember having to send for the head in my first year of teaching as yr 9 decided to have a free for all and I didn't sleep for worrying what the Head thought of my ability to control the class. Luckily my HOD is supportive, and I have learned it is far better to share difficulties than bottle them up. So I can understand why she didn't go to Mademoiselle. Also, as a teacher, it is very difficult to convince other adults when a child is deliberately going out of their way to make your life a misery. This issue came up last year with another teacher, and they were basically told "You are an adult, they are a child."

Author:  jennifer [ Mon Sep 01, 2008 2:04 am ]
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I think the threat to expel Joyce was rather draconican, considering some of what the other students have gotten up to without expulsion.

She led a class in ragging a mistress, organized a midnight feast, and was caught passing notes - worthy of punishment, but considering that other girls at various times managed blackmail, near fatal assault, running away, bullying and vandalism without expulsion. As a mistress, I'd nail her to the wall regarding the Miss Norman affair, but it's a bit much to single her out when other girls went along with all the other things.

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Author:  Fiona Mc [ Thu Sep 04, 2008 5:42 am ]
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I think the reason the reason they gave was Joyce led the ragging of the mistress and midnight feast etc and didn't seem to respond to punishment or being talked to-she only thought up something worse!

Author:  MJKB [ Mon Sep 08, 2008 5:00 pm ]
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EBD's tendency to blame anyone for being in the same vicinity as the trouble maker used to drive me mad! Poor good natured Hilda Jukes was castagated for having a bookend flung at her! How unfair is that!
I've just finished reading 'The Feud in the Fifth' and the heroine feels it necessary to take the blame for the atrocious bullying of her by a new girl. It's actually quite irritating!

Author:  Lesley [ Mon Sep 08, 2008 5:25 pm ]
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Think you mean Betty Landon? But agree - she was given half the blame when all she had done was ask a question and commented on margot being rude. Poor Jane is blamed for being assaulted by Jack Lambert too!

Author:  Loryat [ Thu Sep 11, 2008 5:57 pm ]
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As regards midnight feasts, maybe having being brought up on Enid Blyton has something to do with it, but I also can't see them as a serious offence. But EBD was not the only author to condemn them. In a book called A Disgrce to the Fourth, by Christine Chaundler, the Lower Fourth have a midnight feast and get into really serious trouble.

Author:  Jenefer [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 5:02 pm ]
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I never understood why midnight feasts were such a major crime in the CS. The boarders at my school had a midnight feast on the last night of term and would sometimes ask the day girls to bring them some food.
Also we always had a midnight feast at Guide camp

Author:  Pat [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 8:23 pm ]
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We did the same at my boarding school too. We had the most transparent excuses for goinf into town to buy the stuff - family birthdays usually! The staff must have known, but so long as we didn't call attention to ouselves they let us be. We never waitied till midnight though.

Author:  Mrs Redboots [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 8:59 pm ]
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We had them too - always more enjoyable in the anticipation than in the reality, I found. The headmistress was very anti-them indeed, but fortunately the housemistress didn't mind a bit and just teased us. Having said that, I don't suppose the housemistress would have been best pleased had people had them on anything other than the last night of term, but we never did. And I rather think we grew out of them by the time we were in Upper Fifth (Year 11, these days).

Author:  Alison H [ Fri Sep 12, 2008 10:04 pm ]
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Now, if the CS girls had tried to cook sausages for midnight feasts, like the girls at St Clare's did, then they might have set the school on fire. Or, if they'd sneaked out for a midnight feast by the pool (or probably in their case the lake) like the girls in Malory Towers did then someone would surely have fallen in. All those opportunities for rescue by doctors wasted ...

Er, seriously, I don't know why midnight feasts were seen as such a crime at the CS either. Or how Joyce managed to become seriously ill just from scoffing a bit too much food at an unusual hour.

Author:  Mel [ Sat Sep 13, 2008 2:55 pm ]
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It may be because EBD didn't want any criticism of the food which is implied by a midnight feast.

Author:  Honor [ Sat Sep 13, 2008 4:36 pm ]
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The girls did seem to have very weak stomachs! Though my experience of midnight feasts is that eating is the last think I fancied doing and I would much rather have been asleep!

Author:  Mrs Redboots [ Sat Sep 13, 2008 4:48 pm ]
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Alison H wrote:
Or how Joyce managed to become seriously ill just from scoffing a bit too much food at an unusual hour.


I don't think she was worse than seriously bilious; and certainly at least one girl at my school was always very sick after a midnight feast - I think the consensus was that it Served Her Right and she was left to get on with it!

Author:  JayB [ Sat Sep 13, 2008 4:53 pm ]
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The midnight in Changes is handled with a bit more lightness. Miss Annersley lays into the culprits for disturbing the school the night before exams began, and for upsetting the pigs, but it's said that she saw the funny side.

Author:  jennifer [ Sun Sep 14, 2008 12:44 pm ]
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Actually, if I were a mistress, the midnight in Changes is one I would react much more severely to than the others, primarily because they are actually sneaking off school property - a much more serious offence than staying awake after hours, or eating at midnight.

Author:  Loryat [ Fri Sep 26, 2008 2:34 pm ]
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The Lintons feast is presented fairly humourously, isn't there a bit where Miss Annersley secretly marvels at the toughness of their stomachs? I think CS feats are severely punished but that the staff inwardly find them funny.

Author:  MJKB [ Wed Nov 12, 2008 12:30 pm ]
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I never understood the fuss made over the mid-night in Lintons, especially the scorn poured on them for being 'greedy'. The other issue in that book that I thought was taken way too seriously was the note passing. To compare it to stealing is way ott, and actually quite offensive. There are times that Joey is far too highhanded and officious in her role as Head Girl, but I think EBD points that out. If the notes in question were insulting comments about other girls in the class or about staff members then I could understand the reaction, but apparently not. Extraordinary school where you can bully and intimidate someone as Jack does Jane and get very little in the way of punishment but lots in the way of understanding and yet be castigated for passing a piece of paper with innocuous information on it!

Author:  Cazo3788 [ Wed Nov 12, 2008 1:02 pm ]
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MJKB wrote:
Extraordinary school where you can bully and intimidate someone as Jack does Jane and get very little in the way of punishment but lots in the way of understanding and yet be castigated for passing a piece of paper with innocuous information on it!


I think that Joey is saying that Joyce et al could be cheating by passing notes as the prefect would be unable to tell what was written down. The only other example of cheating I can think of is in Wrong:
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Remember what happened to Vivien James and Marion Orde and Muriel Abbey two years ago?’
Most of those present did, having been Juniors at the time. That hopeful trio had been caught copying a key to their Latin translation a fortnight before the birthday and part of their punishment had been the loss of the expedition to Oxford which had formed the birthday celebration.


So, in Joyce's case, the prefects' punishment was not very severe (just a warning to the new girl and reprimands to the 'old' girls who should have known better) - particular as the note-passing was not made public (so didn't have to face the scorn of all peers) and the mistresses were not involved. The CS also seems to view bullying as something that can only really be solved by the girls themselves, e.g. in Adrienne Miss Annersley says that she knew Janet? had been bullying Adrienne but knew that by saying something the bullying wouldn't stop and might get worse.

Author:  Emma A [ Wed Nov 12, 2008 1:19 pm ]
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Cazo3788 wrote:
...The CS also seems to view bullying as something that can only really be solved by the girls themselves, e.g. in Adrienne Miss Annersley says that she knew Janet? had been bullying Adrienne but knew that by saying something the bullying wouldn't stop and might get worse.

I think that's an old-fashioned attitude - nowadays bullying is reported to the school, and the staff are meant to deal with it. I'm not saying Miss Annersley is wrong to want the girls to change, but I think she should have been a mite more pro-active! In those former days, I suppose, bullied pupils feared to tell because of the culture that one did not sneak, whatever the provocation, as well as for fear of what the bully might do.

In Stalky and Co., the chaplain asks the trio to intervene to find out what's causing the general deterioration of a younger pupil - they react by punishing the bullies causing the boy's misery - which was pretty much what the chaplain wanted...

Author:  Alison H [ Wed Nov 12, 2008 2:07 pm ]
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I think the idea was that passing notes was "dishonourable" because you were trying to get away with breaking a rule (communicating with a friend) in a sneaky way, rather than by talking which would be obvious to the mistress/prefect ... if that makes sense.

Even when I was at school in the '80s/early '90s, "telling tales" was frowned on, and a lot of bullies got away with things as a result. in Eustacia, Miss Wilson makes it clear that Eustacia should put up with being treated badly by the other girls rather than sneak, and even tells her that if she was at a boys' school she'd've got "a good thrashing" for sneaking. Unfortunately that attitude was prevalent for a long time.

Author:  Lesley [ Wed Nov 12, 2008 2:39 pm ]
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Surely Miss Wilson's comments were after Eustacia had just told Miss Wilson that Evadne and Ilonka were playing noughts and crosses? Nothing about bullying.

Author:  Alison H [ Wed Nov 12, 2008 2:43 pm ]
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Sorry - my brain is addled today :oops: :lol: !

Ah - was it Eustacia's uncle who told her off for complaining about bullying (by her cousins)?

Author:  Pat [ Wed Nov 12, 2008 9:47 pm ]
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Lesley wrote:
Surely Miss Wilson's comments were after Eustacia had just told Miss Wilson that Evadne and Ilonka were playing noughts and crosses? Nothing about bullying.


It was. I've just re-read that bit.

Author:  Kathy_S [ Thu Nov 13, 2008 5:37 am ]
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Alison H wrote:
Even when I was at school in the '80s/early '90s, "telling tales" was frowned on, and a lot of bullies got away with things as a result. in Eustacia, Miss Wilson makes it clear that Eustacia should put up with being treated badly by the other girls rather than sneak, and even tells her that if she was at a boys' school she'd've got "a good thrashing" for sneaking. Unfortunately that attitude was prevalent for a long time.

I'm not at all convinced that being a "tattle-tale" or "snitch" isn't still among the worst labels one can earn in schoolyard society, though it may not be quite as devastating as in the past. I think one reason that EBD really hammers home this traditional schoolboy value is as part of her campaign to demonstrate that girls are actually as "honourable" as boys. (Yes, I know it sounds absurd that anyone would assume they weren't, but I think Tom Gay's original view of girls and related perceptions of women were indeed prevalent in some parts of society.) At the same time, EBD does try to make clear that there are also times when "reporting" is the right thing to do. Her characters need to work out the boundary lines for sneaking vs. reporting as well as the more generic when to "stand on their own two feet" vs. when to seek help.

I don't disagree that the boundaries on designating something as "bullying" have moved, but think it's important to read the books as of their time -- or perhaps EBD's time, rather than actual publication date. We know that Hilda is portrayed as keeping a very strict look-out for bullying. Things that seem to be recognized as approaching bullying include both both physical acts (e.g. Betty's slapping Fiona) and protracted episodes of nagging or ostracizing (e.g. Margaret Jones failing to "leave it alone" after the class decides they shouldn't keep after Verity-Ann over the singing, or continuing not to speak to Lavender over the hockey field incident at the beginning of the week. Jack's bullying of Jane was in no way condoned. Rather, it's something to be recognized in time for the CS to work its cure:
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"Bullying!" Jack went scarlet. "I – I – "
"Of course you did! Judging by what I overheard last night, you've been utterly beastly to her. And that, let me tell you, is something I never expected from you, of all people. It gave me a nasty shock, I can tell you!"

Author:  Alison H [ Thu Nov 13, 2008 7:52 am ]
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I think the CS is very "honourable" compared to schools in some other GO books. I re-read some of the St Clare's books recently, for the first time in years, and was really shocked by, for example, the part where the girls hid Mirabel's books and (to make her late for Games) put stones in her boots, and then listened "gleefully" as she was berated by the teachers for things that weren't her fault :shock: . That's appalling behaviour by anyone's standards, never mind people like the O'Sullivan twins and their friends whom we're always being told are so "straight"!

Author:  Pado [ Thu Nov 13, 2008 10:35 pm ]
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I think the "tattletale" problem goes well beyond school stories. There was an incident locally with racial overtones in which a driver (race A) happened to hit a pedestrian (race B) and was attacked to the point of serious injury by other residents of the pedestrian's neighorhood. No one in the neighborhood would "rat out" who the aggressors were, even though it was reportedly common knowledge in the community.

:(

Author:  jennifer [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 3:02 am ]
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Actually, I think the 'girls less honourable than boys' motif does have some basis in reality.

Boys are allowed to be much more direct than girls. Traditionally, if they have a conflict between them, hitting each other has been an acceptable way of working things out - if not in an outright fight, then on the playing field in sports. Name calling, rude language and other offensive behaviours have also been much more accepted for boys than girls.

But hitting someone, or having a fight, isn't ladylike. Girls are held to a much higher standard of social behaviour - no hitting, no yelling or raised voices, no slang, no name calling, no visible displays of anger. Girls are supposed to be nurturing and sweet and gentle, rather than boys, who are supposed to be active, and macho and aggressive.

As a result, conflict between girls tends to be much sneakier than that between boys - ostracizing rather than punching, smear campaigns, nasty gossip and the like.

Author:  Sunglass [ Fri Nov 14, 2008 10:16 am ]
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jennifer wrote:
Girls are held to a much higher standard of social behaviour


And judged on different grounds to men for long periods of history. Historically, while an 'honourable man' was honest, straightforward in his dealings, kept his word etc, an 'honourable woman' was one who had a spotless reputation for purity before marriage and fidelity after it - ie 'honour' was a specifically sexual matter when applied to women.

This started to change from the late Victorian period, as middle-class women moved into the workforce and towards the vote and and I think the whole tattling/honourable girls preoccupation in the CS books is a bit like the exploration of 'boyish', athletic girls, and the importance of female independence and education. EBD is exploring how modern girls are fully-rounded, morally-upright individuals, who can be held to the same high standards as boys.

Author:  MJKB [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 12:25 pm ]
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As a result, conflict between girls tends to be much sneakier than that between boys - ostracizing rather than punching, smear campaigns, nasty gossip and the like.
I agree whole heartedly with the above comment. My daughter was severly bullied in an all girls' school. The bullying involved was mainly exclusion, with a bit of sneering and gossip thrown in. One of the reasons for the extent of the bullying was that the school in question was fed by only three primary schools within the same area and my daughter was the only one to come from a primary school outside the area, consequently, the groups had already formed before school began.
The psychological damage done to her lasted a considerable amount of time. We changed her to our local community school and she is very happy. Off her own bat she claims that the boys in the community school temper the 'bitchiness' of the girls. I'm not sure how true that is generally, but I find 'bad' boys far easier to deal with than 'bad' girls. Quite alot of female bullying goes on under the radar.
Jack Lambert's bullying is quite interesting because it includes physical intimidation, which is generally associated with boys, as well as psychological and emotional bullying, generally the preserve of females.
In fairness to the CS, the ethos of the school militates against bullying so that cases tend to be isolated. The practise of 'sheepdogging', for example, was very effective for including new girls in the group. And EBD does highlight how shocked Jack was when Len points out the nastiness of her behaviour to her and labels the behaviour as bullying. (Why it should have come as a shock to Jack is a tad hard to understand, mind you.)

Author:  Mel [ Mon Nov 17, 2008 8:05 pm ]
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I would agree that girls squabble more among themselves, possibly because they have closer friendships in smaller groups, while boys have a larger field of friends. However in recent years in schools, there has been far more physical fighting between girls than there used to be. Also I always found the boys the ones who used the more extreme racist/sexist language in arguments.

Author:  Jenefer [ Tue Nov 18, 2008 2:49 pm ]
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Girls do fight. My daughters attended an all girls school years 7 -11. Older daughter said there were frequent fights in the open space outside her classroom, which was far away from the staffroom. Apparently the fights involved fingernails and hairpulling as well as verbal insults. Spectators were summoned by word of mouth or mobile phone. Eventually the staff would arrive and break up the fight.

I do not know what happened to the girls afterwards. Younger daughter, who is now at a 6th form school(mixed) told me a girl in her tutor group was asked to leave after she was involved in a fight in the local shopping centre.

Author:  ChubbyMonkey [ Fri Nov 21, 2008 7:03 pm ]
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One thing that I have always found interesting about discipline in the CS occurs in some of the later books (I'm still trying to collect most of them, so I can only comment on a couple of incidences.) In Richenda, for example, we are told that she has been whipped before she went to the CS. But in the CS Miss Annersley makes a point of not using corporal punishment - I can't remember which book exactly, but someone clogs up a drain and tries to flood everything, and the man who has to clear it suggests a cane and the right to use it. Does anyone else think that this is suggestive of EBD being against the use of corporal punishment? If so I would say it only applies to girls, as I seem to remember Dr Jem teaching a certain member of the Mystic M a lesson...

Author:  lizarfau [ Fri Nov 21, 2008 11:55 pm ]
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We definitely had fights among the girls, which included punching, at the grammar-turned-comprehensive that I attended in the 1970s. There were also fights between girls from the local secondary-modern-turned-comprehensive and girls from our school. I was inadvertently caught up in a fight with two older girls from the other school (the girl I was walking home with was their target, but I happened to be there and was small!) and was punched, pushed to the ground and kicked. We were then told not to walk on "their" side of the street again. :roll:

There were obviously more fights among the boys, but a couple of the boys in our class were very bitchy towards the less attractive girls, giving them nicknames and generally putting them down in a way that's more associated with girls.

Author:  MaryR [ Sat Nov 22, 2008 11:05 am ]
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ChubbyMonkey wrote:
Does anyone else think that this is suggestive of EBD being against the use of corporal punishment? If so I would say it only applies to girls, as I seem to remember Dr Jem teaching a certain member of the Mystic M a lesson...

Corporal punishment for both sexes certainly was still going on in the Fifties, as both boys and girls received it at my Junior school, though the girls got the slipper and the boys the cane/ruler. I began at a Convent Grammar in 1957 and we had no corporal punishment, but my brother at the boys Grammar stll did in his first few years. Each indvidual school seems to have made its own decisions. I can't see Hilda employing a cane somehow, despite it's being permissible. :D

Author:  Katherine [ Sat Nov 22, 2008 11:24 am ]
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ChubbyMonkey wrote:
Does anyone else think that this is suggestive of EBD being against the use of corporal punishment? If so I would say it only applies to girls, as I seem to remember Dr Jem teaching a certain member of the Mystic M a lesson...

Yes it does, there is a part in a Head Girl's Difficulties where the press say they can't use a cane as it's girls they are dealing with.

Author:  Clare [ Sun Nov 23, 2008 6:46 pm ]
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MJKB wrote:
Off her own bat she claims that the boys in the community school temper the 'bitchiness' of the girls. I'm not sure how true that is generally, but I find 'bad' boys far easier to deal with than 'bad' girls. Quite alot of female bullying goes on under the radar.


MJKB, I am so sorry to hear of your daughter's experience and i'm glad she's happier now in her new school.

I would agree whole heartedly with what she says though. I taught in an all girls school; one particular class were very nasty one afternoon and decided to flatly refuse what they had been asked to do. So I involved the HOD, and they were "hauled over the coals" for it - until I left the school, members of that class would mutter as they passed me on a corridor, sulk in lessons etc. And these were girls aged 14-15! Now, in a mixed school, if a class tries the same thing on, they are generally more accepting of a punishment. I feel the boy's attitude is a factor in this - "fair cop, we did misbehave, now we've got to deal with it."

Author:  MJKB [ Mon Nov 24, 2008 11:33 am ]
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MJKB, I am so sorry to hear of your daughter's experience and i'm glad she's happier now in her new school.(Claire)

Thank you Claire.

Author:  Loryat [ Thu Dec 11, 2008 6:57 pm ]
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Lots of girls fought at my school, actually I can remember a lot more fights between girls than between boys. And Bride and Lavender fight in the CS, plus Dimsie gets into fights with people in DFB.

I think the CS attitude was definitely anti-bullying, or at least anti-what they saw as bullying (some behaviour that we would regard as bullying is apparently okay lol) and also the CS is a lot more anti-bullying than Enid Blyton's books. (As someone said).

At my school, in more than one instance when bullying was reported staff didn't do much at all to stop it (on one occasion claiming that because the bullying was happening on the way to/from school they couldn't actually do anything). And to be honest I think that with the best will in the world, in a big high school there's not really a lot teachers can do to stop bullying, particularly if physical violence isn't used. I can see whre Miss Annersley is coming from with her view that the girls should sort it out themselves. Unfortunately, as far as I can remember most pupils are complicit in bullying even if they don't instigate it, out of fear of the bullies and a general adolescent sheep mentality.

I help out at a Rainbows unit and it seems to me like the 'tell no tales' mentality hasn't kicked in there at all, though when I was at school a couple of years ago it was alive and well. The girls constantly come running to you with 'stories' about what another girl has done to them (quite often these are ridiculous or almost totally fabricated) and I long for some good old fashioned anti-sneaking sentiment.

Author:  MJKB [ Sat Dec 20, 2008 10:23 pm ]
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I'm doing some work on bullying at the moment and have attended a couple of workshops on the subject. The emphasis seems to be more on teaching children survival skills to cope with the bullies as, to misquote the Good Book, the bully we will always have with us. There are some excellent exercises you can teach them.
Excuse me repeating myself in the same discussion, but, with a few notable exceptions, I think the CS had an pretty good record on anti-bullying policy. In other GO books, particularly Enid Blyton's, new girls were expected to find their own feet without any help from the other girls whereas the CS was proactive in supporting them through the first couple of weeks. The modern school would do well to follow its example.

Author:  CBW [ Sun Dec 21, 2008 2:43 pm ]
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I think bullying sometimes is a perception thing.

One kid in my daughter's class used to chuck her gym kit or her bag in the bin all the timer. Her class teacher woudn't/couldn't see it was a problem but the kid's mother was the school secretary and when I tried to talk to the mother about it she really couldn't see it was a huge problem as nothing was ever damaged and it could just be retrieved.

It took me emptying the contents of her handbag into her office bin for her to actually take the point. (Once she stopped shouting.) In the middle of the row the head suddenly realised how incredibly stupid they were going to look if they tried to bring anything against me for doing to one of them what they'd told my daughter she was being a baby for getting upset about.

I'm guessing if you've never experienced it you really can't see how something apparantly small and stupid can really be that bad.

Author:  Lesley [ Sun Dec 21, 2008 4:01 pm ]
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CBW wrote:
It took me emptying the contents of her handbag into her office bin for her to actually take the point. (Once she stopped shouting.) In the middle of the row the head suddenly realised how incredibly stupid they were going to look if they tried to bring anything against me for doing to one of them what they'd told my daughter she was being a baby for getting upset about.


What an absolutely fantastic way of making your point! :lol: Bet you couldn't believe it that she'd let herself open to you doing that to her! :mrgreen:

Author:  Jennie [ Sun Dec 21, 2008 4:24 pm ]
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Sometimes you just have to take direct action.

Two boys in my tutor group were bullying a girl under the pretence of helping her. I tried reason the first few times, then when they appeared not to listen, I bullied them. I pulled them up for everything, even the slightest little mark on their shoes, and wehn they complained, I smirked and told them I was just trying to help them.

They got the message.

Author:  MJKB [ Sun Dec 21, 2008 6:24 pm ]
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Well done,CBW and Jennie!!

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