Róisín wrote: |
Second (and last!) thought on the subject - how much of the blame/guilt issues stem from EBD's religious views I wonder. Especially after she became Catholic, with all the confessional ideologies that come with that. Forgiveness for serious incidents seems strong to her - ie Margot (but then Margot did spend her life atoning for her inherent badness by becoming a nun?). |
Alison H wrote: |
Sybil being made to feel permanently guilty for Josette's accident. OK, she was disobedient and careless, but she was very young at the time and it was a complete accident - she never meant to hurt anyone. |
Alison H wrote: |
Stacie being made to feel that it would be her fault if Robin developed TB, because Robin was worried when the school party was delayed due to an avalanche which they might have avoided had Stacie not accidentally pushed Nell. That really is stretching it ! |
Alison H wrote: |
Thekla being told, by the headmistress, that if Mrs Linton had died at that point then she (Thekla) would have been a murderess! OK, Thekla shouldn't have tried to get Joyce into bother, but there's no suggestion that it ever occurred to her that Joyce's mum might be upset - and the salient point that Mrs Linton had been suffering from a life-threatening illness for some time just didn't get mentioned. |
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"...Oh, Eustacia. If only you had learned self-control, all this need never have happened." |
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"...After all," she (Sybil) added with a sigh, "it was my fault in the beginning."
"Josette's illness certainly was," Jo agreed. "I was desperately sorry for you, Sybs, during that time - sorrier for you than anyone else, even your mother. It was hard for her to see Josette suffer, and know that there was a chance that she mightn't live; or even if she did, she might never be well again. Madge had nothing to blame herself for. She's a wonderful mother, and she'd done everything she could to help you all. If anything dreadful had happened, you would have known it was your fault. Now, my lamb, you can forget all that. It's finished. Josette is going to be as sturdy as any of you. So promise me not to think of it any more." |
Mrs Redboots wrote: |
I always read it that Jack avoided seeing Mike for some days after he'd upset Joey so badly because he was afraid he'd be unnecessarily harsh with him if he did see him - so it was for Mike's own protection.
Jack seems to have had a worse temper even than Margot! |
jennifer wrote: | ||
I think it's pretty easy to figure out where Margot got her temper from. Joey is impulsive and has poor self control, but is generally not prone to either wild rages or holding grudges. |
Fiona Mc wrote: | ||||
But mix a temper with poor self control then that is a bad combination. She inherited Jack's temper and Joey's poor self control. |
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Certainly EBD appears to believe at times in character as innate, which reads oddly against other bits in CS books where people change virtually overnight, as signalled often by a new hairstyle (Ted Grantley, Eustacia). |
Alison H wrote: |
... and yet when Sybil plays up we're told (admittedly by Madge's sister) that Madge has absolutely nothing to blame herself for |
Alex wrote: | ||
But there is a lot of implication that other people are to blame for constantly praising Sybil's good looks and making her conceited. Perhaps Jem is due some blame? Maybe she is Daddy's Little Girl? |
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Mike never seems more than an active, energetic, normally mischevious boy, unlike sober, responsible Stephen, or quiet, well behaved Charles. His parents, however, throw up their hands in horror, pawn him off on the neighbours, and expect much more than a child his age really should be able to manage. |
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"Mamma!" he sobbed. "I d - did try n - not to wake you-" |
Fiona Mc wrote: |
In regards to Jack, I'm sure I've never heard him label his kids. ...
I think most parents are imperfect and are human and Jack seems to be judged so harshly for one time when he does lose his temper so wholeheartedly and at a time when someone close to him becomes extremely ill/close to death. All other times he stays calm and impervious to others bad moods/tempers. ... |
Fiona Mc wrote: |
Jack is emotional and angry and scared and rather than lash out stays away until he calms down. That to me does show restraint. It also showed he knew his limits Would people rather he beat Mike senseless. |
jennifer wrote: |
I think the thing that gets me about the dynamics of Jack, the children, and Joey's health is that everyone else is responsible for Joey's well being *except* Joey. |
JayB wrote: |
Yes - one could argue that the bird's nest incident was the result of Joey taking all eleven children out with inadequate adult supervision. They are all children, after all, and it's unfair to expect them all to be perfectly responsible all the time, and then to blame them when they behave like normal children. As well as the blame for Mike, there's also the implication that Steve, who is only eleven or twelve himself, should have stopped Mike. |
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I can see that Len is leaving her sisters to look after themselves and is going all out for her friendships with Rosamund and Ted. I’m more than thankful for that last! |
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the girls are most helpful with the small fry. That’s the beauty of a long family. The older ones help with the younger. |
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Steve can generally keep Charles and Mike in order and Felix admires his eldest brother so much that he’s no trouble to anyone so long as Steve will take charge of him. |
JayB wrote: |
Jo and Jack never seem to have thought of sending Mike to the local school on the Platz - presumably there was one. |
Mrs Redboots wrote: | ||
There may or may not have been a local school, but the teaching would not have been in English. If you remember, they start up St Nicholas so that the English-speaking kids have somewhere to go. |
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Felicity, snuggled up beside her eldest sister, looked up with an angelic smile. “I’ve thought of something. Let’s all talk German every third day for the rest of the time we’re here. It’ll help you and by the time school begins you’ll be able to understand some and even talk a little, too.”
“It’s an idea,” Len said thoughtfully. “It would help the boys, too. Mamma was just saying yesterday that it’s a pity they can’t keep up their languages in termtime.” |
Róisín wrote: | ||
I don't think this would have bothered Jack and Jo. The CS was only 1/3 English-speaking. Joey spoke in whichever language came handiest when she was at home - English, French or German. When they were in Austria, there is no language barrier to Biddy attending the local school, although she would have had less exposure to German than Mike. |
Sunglass wrote: |
And isn't there a Guernsey character (who it is escapes me, sorry), who does go to a local school before the CS, but is surrounded by unsuitable girls there - there's some reference to them having a 'very different outlook' on life, and her parents being relieved at the arrival of the CS? |
Sunglass wrote: |
And isn't there a Guernsey character (who it is escapes me, sorry), who does go to a local school before the CS, but is surrounded by unsuitable girls there - there's some reference to them having a 'very different outlook' on life, and her parents being relieved at the arrival of the CS? The only reference I can recall to a central character unproblematically sending a child to a local school is - I think Joey sending Stephen to a school in Carnbach, when he's still quite little. |
Rosie wrote: |
Isn't Beth's school a dodgy private one, not a state/village/council one? |
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The education was good enough of its kind, but the girls of a very different class, with an outlook on life of which her parents disapproved |
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it would have meant the village school where you learnt nothing - except broad Yorkshire |
Alison H wrote: | ||
Even worse are Polly and Lala Winterton's parents, who arrange for their daughters to be taught by an utterly useless governess because otherwise
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Mona wrote: |
I'm fairly sure that Beth's role is described as Mother's help and nursery governess when it's discussed (in Barbara?). Certainly I always had the impression that she did some basic lessons with at least the younger children. |
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