Róisín wrote: |
It struck me how different Elizabeth's parenting style was with her own children to how it was with Janie. |
Róisín wrote: |
It struck me how different Elizabeth's parenting style was with her own children to how it was with Janie. |
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“This is a party,” Ailie remarked. “I say, Len, I do think Sybs might have come to England for her wedding. It means that none of you folk will be there and it’s the first in the family. I do think Sybs might have thought of that earlier.”
“Oh, well, in that case I suppose her bridegroom’s folk wouldn’t have been able to be present,” Len said. “It cuts both ways, you know, Ailie.” “There’s something in that,” Ailie owned. “Anyhow, I’ll see you folk get a good-sized chunk of the cake and if I can bag any bells or things from its ornaments for you, I will. I’ll tell Mum. I expect she’ll see the point when I explain it to her. She’s quite good at that sort of thing.” “She’s not the only one,” Margot said. “So’s our mum. In fact, when you come to think of it, as a family – I mean all of us and the Bettanys – we’re jolly lucky in our parents. It isn’t often they try to come the heads of the family over us once we’re old enough to see sense. And they do see that one has one’s own point of view and will listen to it, even if they don’t agree with it. I suppose,” she added thoughtfully, “that’s too much for anyone to expect, even in these days.” Adrienne listened to the talk, wide-eyed. She herself had been on unusually easy terms with her father, but she had never ventured to argue a command he had issued. Neither, unless she was asked for it, would she have stated her own opinions. Yet she had heard the Maynards discuss things with their mother almost as if they belonged to the same generation. Did all English families behave so, she wondered. “You look a trifle dazed,” Janice remarked, joining her. “Anything wrong? Or are you feeling overdone?” “But no. I feel very well. It is just – ” she paused. “Well? Just – what?” Janice demanded. “What’s biting you?” “I am amazed at the way you English girls seem to speak to your parents.” “What? What do you mean?” Janice was staring at her. “Why, it is almost as if – as they were of the same – same – ah, I forget the word. Not age – no; but – ” “I suppose you mean the same generation. Well, but don’t you think that’s a compliment to them?” Janice asked lightly. Adrienne shook her head. “Me, I do not understand. I do not think it would be permitted in France. La jeune fille is expected to remember that she is a daughter and owes reverence to her parents.” “Gosh! How ghastly! Of course, I know that even people like Mélanie Lucas is – is – well, more formal, if you like, to her father and mother. My own folk would take running jumps if I spoke to them as I’ve heard Solly de Chaumontel speak to her aunt or the Merciers to their father that time he came last summer. What’s more, I should hate it myself. Oh, I’ve never been allowed to be cheeky – especially,” she gave a sudden grin, “if Dad was anywhere in the offing – ” “How ‘offing’, if you please?” Adrienne was not letting this pass. “It’s – well it means neighbourhood. It’s a sailor expression.” “Ah, I understand. Excuse me, please, and continue with what you were saying. I have much interest, for it seems to me that English girls have so much more freedom than we who are French. “Why,” Janice said without further comment, “what I was going to say was that we’ve never been allowed to cheek people. In fact, I think Mummy and Dad are pretty strict that way – lots more so than our Aunt Janie and Uncle Julian Lucy. You don’t know, of course, but all our Lucy cousins have been at school here and, in fact, Kitten, the youngest of the bunch, is coming in September. Well, now I come to think of it, that crowd talk to their folk just as the Maynards talk to theirs and –and so on.” |
Alison H wrote: |
I can imagine Jem being very strict as well - I can't imagine any of the kids daring to wind him up! I can't even imagine people teasing him the way the other adults tease Jack, e.g. in Rescue (I think) when Marie teases Jack about his hair. |
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Dad's so strict about obedience - with us, at any rate; and I don't suppose he'll let up for Melanie. He always says disobedience is the beginning of all sorts of trouble. |
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Dad was easy enough as a rule, but when he spoke like that, you
listened - or else! |
Changnoi wrote: |
I also do like the Ozanne twins because they are so lazy and go to the Chalet School and are never reformed. And I like Bad Bill and Mike in Janie Steps In. But Elizabeth and Paul really don't seem to hold the family to any kind of standard.
Chang |
Caroline wrote: |
Yes, and this is the parenting style I find inexplicable. I can buy Janie and Julian's laissez faire, I can buy Anne and Peter's treatment of Barbara and Beth (just!), but I can't understand how Elizabeth and Paul - a stately, elegant woman and a highly educated lawyer and community leader, both of whom have previously helped to bring up younger siblings / half-siblings - end up with lazy, running-wild children. And, what is more, don't seem to care. What's even more weird is that EBD makes no attempt to explain why the Ozanne children turn out as they do. In most of her other parenting examples we get some mitigating circumstances or explanation for why the children end up as they do, but with the Ozannes we are obviously just supposed to accept that that is the way they are - lazy twins, bad boys. Tis most strange! |
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