Róisín wrote: |
She much preferred to go down the dramatic and superelegant route of stark white faces, large pool-like eyes full of emotion, lips compressed in anger, single sharp screams etc, rather than a bawling messy bout of indulgence. |
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We're superimposing the current view that emotions should be expressed on a culture which would not have agreed. EBD was accurately reflecting the times and whether we agree or not, that is how it was. |
Róisín wrote: | ||
Thank you Patmac!
Just out of interest, do any of the parents on the board still agree with this? I don't yet have children, but I imagine that I would try to encourage them to "express their stress" only up to a point. Self-control doesn't seem to be a popular virtue anymore and I think it should be. |
Róisín wrote: |
Heya Patmac, I know you weren't favouring one side over the other, it was just that sentence of yours that made me think of the problem in the first place. And I love all the points you made about the CBB support system.
It's difficult though. I mean, assuming an outward appearance does affect how you feel inside. I'm thinking here of Mary-Lou being told not to fret and deciding she won't, and then finding that her decision makes it easier for her on the inside too. Is it harder for someone who is susceptible to collapsing into tears/hysterics/self-pity etc to get over things/deal with things and move on? |
leahbelle wrote: |
Would EBD consider depression mere self-pity and self-indulgence and advise "pulling oneself together"? Or would there have been some sympathy there? Its hard to relate today's attitudes to things like this to the attitudes that were prevalent when the CS was written. |
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I'm all in favour of anyone crying if they think it does them any good,but I've never seen why the tears should be inflicted on ones family or ones friends. Tears are one of natures saftey valves, but not intended for use in public |
leahbelle wrote: |
I've felt that about Odette too, Ann, and I could never understand why EBD made homesickness out to be such a bad thing. Odette has lots going on in her life - being called and thought of a "watering spout" surely couldn't have been a very positive way of helping her! |
leahbelle wrote: |
I've felt that about Odette too, Ann, and I could never understand why EBD made homesickness out to be such a bad thing. Odette has lots going on in her life - being called and thought of a "watering spout" surely couldn't have been a very positive way of helping her! |
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